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Laury D...

Tomcatgirl, assuming that your children haven't been in school, since you are concern that the father might pick them up at school and being that you can't afford to pay a lawyer; not to mention that he doesn't know where your new house is, then my recommedation for you is to disguise yourself as a total different person... change your hair colorlast by your children different clothes so not even her could spot all you three. I wouldn't give him custody if he is not willing to teach them and if he is living in those conditions.

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Answered by Laury D...Age : 34 1 month ago Edit Delete

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S.A.Cables

I just found the 'rest' of your question - and with more information it seems that you should have no trouble with the court -assuming you can establish the facts you allege below. You may even want to ask the court to provide for supervised visitation with the father - if he's an alcoholic living in squalor there is a high probability that the court will award you sole custody and put some restrictions on his visitation rights.

Good luck!

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S.A.Cables

I need more information: Are you divorced? If so, doesn't the divorce decree/order provide for visitation. You can't frustrate that order by making it impossible for your ex to visit the kids in a meaningful way.

You should go to family court and start an action asking for custody and giving you the right to move to the place you hope to move (what state are you in?). You will have to show that being in the new location is in the best interest of the kids (you'll have a better job, they'll have more opportunities, etc.), the court will decide based on what it perceives to be the best interest of the children.

It would be best for you to have legal representation - but if you don't the clerk in Family Court should be very helpful in giving you the forms you'll need, and in helping you understand how to fill them out. At least that's the case in NY.

Hope this helps.

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The only way to be able to move is by going to court or the consent of the father. The law provides the father with certain rights and the same way that you cannot just pick up and leave with the kids, he can't either. You can go to court and file a petition and indicate that you cannot afford a lawyer and they will work with you. There is no easy answer and the process is there for you and your husband's protection and for the well being of the children. Go through the process and don't break the law it will work against you in the long run.

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me and their father have been divorced for 4 years , i have asked him to work with me , that i would meet him half way and bring the kids everyother weekend to see him , still he is not satisfied when he only gets them every weekend now. i asked him to do mabe one or two weeks with him and one or 2 weeks with me and we would just have to home school them because of the long distance and he sayes he dont have time to homeschool them. plus he is a alcoholic and his house is filled with roaches, my boys say they have to take a fly swatter to bed with them because they crawl on them at night. I dont want to take them from him , i am willing to give him ample visitation but he wont budge .