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How do I find the Strength to move on out of a relationship with a guy who is committed?
I'm single and is dating this guy who is in a committed relationship with someone abroad, i only found this out after a few months of dating him, at this point i'm already inlove with him and can't seem to end the relationship since he appear to be the ideal person i was looking to meet. We have made decisions to separate twice due to his situation but alway return to each other, everytime we return his situation keeps eating away at me and i just can't cope with it. What should i do, I'M SO INLOVE AND CONFUSE.
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Tep Answered by Laury D...Age : 34 1 month ago Edit Delete
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You have to find it in you to leave. When you're ready you will leave. No one can give you any advice on this because no matter what... you won't listen because you are in love. Trust me... once you've had enough you will slowly leave... or he will end it if he doesn't want to hurt the both of you. My best advice would be to leave it alone at this moment... think about how you would feel if he was committed to you and cheated on you with her. Now that you know, you can act on it. Count leaving and moving on as a blessing. It's not too late!!! Answered by MissCristyAge : 22 1 month ago Edit Delete
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He is COMMITTED, if he was or still is "committed" to that other girl and basically played her for you, he will do it TO YOU! find the strength and move on because its just not worth the stress. By the way did he dump the other girl? or does he have her hanging on the side? It sounds like to me that your stressing away and hes just having fun. Answered by jeri3303Age : 26 1 month ago Edit Delete
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He can't be an ideal person if he never told you he has a commitment with someone else.Life is short and you are wasting your time and missing the opportunity to find someone that want to commit to you.Let him know how you feel and go find happiness somewhere else. You deserve it.You need to take a yoga or dance class....something fun.The strength comes from with in.Get motivated. Answered by BuckAge : 50 1 month ago Edit Delete
Posted by:Tep
Age : 32
Date Added : Feb 6, 2010
Buck i agree with you, i feel as though i'm wasting time.Yes! he know how i feel. I've been trying to get motivated but i'm so busy with fulltime work, fulltime school and a daughter. That i find no time for fun activities. Adding to that i think my interest for dating again is no longer there, it feels as though i'm not interested in no one else at this time. |
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The realistic question what is it that you what for yourself today and for the future.Could this person abroad just be the obstacle he needs in order not to make a commitment to you? Honestly and truthfulness are the keys to any successful relationship. You need to focus on your needs and hopes and expectations for the future. While he may seem like the ideal person you have been looking for he's not. He has too much baggage for this relationship to be able to succeed. Allow yourself to begin to do social and other activities with your friends. Start to slowly pull yourself away from the relationship. You can still be friend but unless he is willing to commit to you fully it can only be that a friendship. Answered by GoodscoutAge : 31 1 month ago Edit Delete
Posted by:Tep
Age : 32
Date Added : Feb 6, 2010
Definitely no, if i had known of his situation before, i wouldn't have gotten into this mess. It is eating away at me, knowing i don't want this for myself and my future. I can consider myself very focus, since i dodn't have any relative in the USA and only have a few friends i communicate with, who are not outgoing, anything else is me making it work. I'll try unwining myself away, but i don't think the friend thing is going to work atleast for now. |
