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How do I fix a broken relationship with a sibling? We used to be the best of friends but we had a huge fight over her selfish and using ways. All she cares about is how ppl can help her and what they can do for her. We are both in school and I take care of our mom. She doesn't share the responsibility of taking care of our mother in any way, but every year when tax time rolls around she's looking to claim her on her return so she doesn't have to pay $$. I make decent $, but I'm not rich by any means, I've bills to pay too. She lets her boyfriend mouth off to my mom. I got into a fight with him because of how he was speaking to me and she took his side w/o asking what happened. She owes me about $400 since I paid her tuition and she ignores whatever messages I send her asking for my $ back. In Family Asked by TwstdGo... Age : 32 6 Answers TwstdGo... 1007 Views 1 month ago Resolved Vote 1 Tweet Email to Friends Add to Favorites Question Badge Use this wwuask.com question badge in blogs, websites, forums. Copy and paste the HTML below:

We used to be the best of friends but we had a huge fight over her selfish and using ways. All she cares about is how ppl can help her and what they can do for her. We are both in school and I take care of our mom. She doesn't share the responsibility of taking care of our mother in any way, but every year when tax time rolls around she's looking to claim her on her return so she doesn't have to pay $$. I make decent $, but I'm not rich by any means, I've bills to pay too. She lets her boyfriend mouth off to my mom. I got into a fight with him because of how he was speaking to me and she took his side w/o asking what happened. She owes me about $400 since I paid her tuition and she ignores whatever messages I send her asking for my $ back.

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Family feud its difficult especially when its your own sister. I assume that your the oldest being that you paid for her College tuition. I have a question for you why didn't you put a condition, saying to her that you would help her out with her expenses as long as she gets a job and pays you each month? Actually it's not to late you can still make that arrangement with your sister. But first you have to forgive her. In addition about her boyfriend is she still with him? because if that's the case I think you should tell her to leave him and make her see that he is a loser. I also think that the debt of the tuition is not the only one, you should ask her for some part of the money you put in taxes because you two live with your mother. But most of all it happened a long time ago you are always going to be sisters so just forgive and forget. I hope this helps laurado28@hotmail.com Answered by Laury D...Age : 34 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by Laury Dominguez 1 month ago
It is easy in that all you have to do and say is I'm sorry whether you are the victim or perpetrator.Ask your sis to meet with you for lunch and let her know how much you miss talking with her inspite of your differences.People can disagree on issues and still be friends,you know your sis weaknesses correct her in a nice way, let her know how you feel about the way she treats you ask her to put herself in your place.Please do not let her boyfriend get between you two. Answered by rachelAge : 50 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by rachel 1 month ago
THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS FORGIVE YOUR SISTER. NOTHING CAN SEPARATE NEITHER OF YOU, YOU ARE BOND TO LIFE FOREVER. LIFE IS LIKE THAT, WE ARE MORE WILLING TO FORGIVE A FRIEND THAN A SIBBLING. LET IT GO, IF SHE DOESN'T PAY YOU BACK, DO NOT LEND HER MONEY AGAIN AND THAT'S IT.BUT REMEMBER, IF ONE DAY YOU BECOME SICK OR NEED HER SHE WILL BE THERE FOR YOU, THAT IS THE LAW OF LIFE. AND SOONER OR LATER SHE WILL FIND OUT THAT HER BOYFRIEND IS A JERK, GIVE HER TIME. GOOD LUCK. LIZ Answered by lizAge : 53 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by liz 1 month ago
Unfortunately you can not fix it without the help of your sister. They say in life timing is everything. You need for now to put aside all these issues that are eating away at you emotionally. Ask your sister if you can meet or go out to talk as you did when you were best friends. Ask her how you can both work at rebuilding your friendship and explain to her how you feel. If she is not willing to work together in an attempt to salvage what you once had then you may need to step away and let her ponder on what the next steps are. You can't solve this on your own and she will have to meet you half way. Answered by counselorAge : 39 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by counselor 1 month ago
First all whoever this person doesn't appreciate what you had done for her/him. sometimes its hard to face the fact that things are going wrong. but at the end of the day u cant fix a broken relationship with someone if their constantly ignore u and avoid u, it just make things worse. if u really want to patch things up all u have to do it give it time. don't worry the time will come and the broken relationship would be fix and b looking all new in no time. i understand that u want your money back i think u should just leave it alone money come and goes, and as your life experience u now know who u can n cant give money too. but if things do patch up u need to be careful about u do and say around that person because they can turn on u again. and one more thing keep taking good care of your mother your doing a great job. not all people would do this when they should Answered by chulalo...Age : 22 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by chulalovers90 1 month ago
Overcoming Obstacles The way to peace in personal disputes, however, is often blocked by obstacles. Have you ever said: “Why must I be the first one to make peace? He caused the problem.” Or have you ever gone to someone to clear up a problem only to hear that person say: “I have nothing to say to you”? Some people respond in those ways because of the emotional hurt they have suffered. Proverbs 18:19 says: “A brother who is transgressed against is more than a strong town; and there are contentions that are like the bar of a dwelling tower.” So take the other person’s feelings into account. If he rebuffs you, wait a short time and try again. Then the “strong town” may be open and the “bar” may be removed from the door to reconciliation. Another obstacle to peace may involve a person’s self-respect. To some people, apologizing or even speaking to an adversary is a humiliation. Concern for self-respect is proper, but does refusing to make peace enhance a person’s self-respect or diminish it? Could this concern for self-respect cover up pride? The Bible writer James shows that there is a connection between a contentious spirit and pride. After exposing the “wars” and “fights” that some Christians wage among themselves, he goes on to say: “God opposes the haughty ones, but he gives undeserved kindness to the humble ones.” (James 4:1-3, 6) How does haughtiness, or pride, hinder peacemaking? Pride deludes people, making them believe they are better than others. Haughty ones feel that they have the authority to judge the moral value of their fellowman. In what way? When disagreements arise, they often view their antagonists as lost causes, beyond hope of improvement. Pride moves some people to judge those who differ with them as undeserving of attention, let alone a sincere apology. Hence, those driven by personal pride often allow conflicts to continue rather than resolve them properly. Like a barricade that halts traffic on a highway, pride often halts the steps leading to peace. So if you find yourself resisting efforts to make peace with someone, you may be struggling with pride. How can you overcome pride? By developing its opposite—humility. THE WATCHTOWER MARCH 1, 2005 Answered by nychelpAge : 29 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by nychelp 1 month ago

Family feud its difficult especially when its your own sister. I assume that your the oldest being that you paid for her College tuition. I have a question for you why didn't you put a condition, saying to her that you would help her out with her expenses as long as she gets a job and pays you each month? Actually it's not to late you can still make that arrangement with your sister. But first you have to forgive her. In addition about her boyfriend is she still with him? because if that's the case I think you should tell her to leave him and make her see that he is a loser. I also think that the debt of the tuition is not the only one, you should ask her for some part of the money you put in taxes because you two live with your mother. But most of all it happened a long time ago you are always going to be sisters so just forgive and forget.

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It is easy in that all you have to do and say is I'm sorry whether you are the victim or perpetrator.Ask your sis to meet with you for lunch and let her know how much you miss talking with her inspite of your differences.People can disagree on issues and still be friends,you know your sis weaknesses correct her in a nice way, let her know how you feel about the way she treats you ask her to put herself in your place.Please do not let her boyfriend get between you two.

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THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS FORGIVE YOUR SISTER. NOTHING CAN SEPARATE NEITHER OF YOU, YOU ARE BOND TO LIFE FOREVER. LIFE IS LIKE THAT, WE ARE MORE WILLING TO FORGIVE A FRIEND THAN A SIBBLING. LET IT GO, IF SHE DOESN'T PAY YOU BACK, DO NOT LEND HER MONEY AGAIN AND THAT'S IT.BUT REMEMBER, IF ONE DAY YOU BECOME SICK OR NEED HER SHE WILL BE THERE FOR YOU, THAT IS THE LAW OF LIFE. AND SOONER OR LATER SHE WILL FIND OUT THAT HER BOYFRIEND IS A JERK, GIVE HER TIME.
GOOD LUCK.
LIZ

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Unfortunately you can not fix it without the help of your sister. They say in life timing is everything. You need for now to put aside all these issues that are eating away at you emotionally. Ask your sister if you can meet or go out to talk as you did when you were best friends. Ask her how you can both work at rebuilding your friendship and explain to her how you feel. If she is not willing to work together in an attempt to salvage what you once had then you may need to step away and let her ponder on what the next steps are. You can't solve this on your own and she will have to meet you half way.

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First all whoever this person doesn't appreciate what you had done for her/him. sometimes its hard to face the fact that things are going wrong. but at the end of the day u cant fix a broken relationship with someone if their constantly ignore u and avoid u, it just make things worse. if u really want to patch things up all u have to do it give it time. don't worry the time will come and the broken relationship would be fix and b looking all new in no time. i understand that u want your money back i think u should just leave it alone money come and goes, and as your life experience u now know who u can n cant give money too. but if things do patch up u need to be careful about u do and say around that person because they can turn on u again. and one more thing keep taking good care of your mother your doing a great job. not all people would do this when they should

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Overcoming Obstacles
The way to peace in personal disputes, however, is often blocked by obstacles. Have you ever said: “Why must I be the first one to make peace? He caused the problem.” Or have you ever gone to someone to clear up a problem only to hear that person say: “I have nothing to say to you”? Some people respond in those ways because of the emotional hurt they have suffered. Proverbs 18:19 says: “A brother who is transgressed against is more than a strong town; and there are contentions that are like the bar of a dwelling tower.” So take the other person’s feelings into account. If he rebuffs you, wait a short time and try again. Then the “strong town” may be open and the “bar” may be removed from the door to reconciliation.

Another obstacle to peace may involve a person’s self-respect. To some people, apologizing or even speaking to an adversary is a humiliation. Concern for self-respect is proper, but does refusing to make peace enhance a person’s self-respect or diminish it? Could this concern for self-respect cover up pride?

The Bible writer James shows that there is a connection between a contentious spirit and pride. After exposing the “wars” and “fights” that some Christians wage among themselves, he goes on to say: “God opposes the haughty ones, but he gives undeserved kindness to the humble ones.” (James 4:1-3, 6) How does haughtiness, or pride, hinder peacemaking?

Pride deludes people, making them believe they are better than others. Haughty ones feel that they have the authority to judge the moral value of their fellowman. In what way? When disagreements arise, they often view their antagonists as lost causes, beyond hope of improvement. Pride moves some people to judge those who differ with them as undeserving of attention, let alone a sincere apology. Hence, those driven by personal pride often allow conflicts to continue rather than resolve them properly.

Like a barricade that halts traffic on a highway, pride often halts the steps leading to peace. So if you find yourself resisting efforts to make peace with someone, you may be struggling with pride. How can you overcome pride? By developing its opposite—humility.

THE WATCHTOWER MARCH 1, 2005

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