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Well, he obviously had many, many issues he was struggling with. You could not help him with them. Perhaps, no one would have been able to. Your staying with him would not have healed him and may have ended you. His last act, actually, was still an act of his having control. We are each responsible for our choices. You made a choice that would protect yourself and that's a good thing. He, also, made a choice that would protect him. You both wanted your pain to end. Learn from this how to identify people with problems, especially severe ones and give them a wide berth. Learn to identify healthy traits in people and gravitate towards them. If this is hard for you to do, try to find out why you feel responsible for other people's happiness or think that you can save people from themselves, just love them enough, etc. You may find that this is a trigger from childhood where someone put responsibility on you which shouldn't have been yours or you saw that done and thought that is how it is supposed to be. Join a group that caters to healing these kinds of feelings and/or helps you deal with your situation. Group support can be immensely helpful, scientifically proven! Most of all, realize there is nothing you have to forgive yourself for. Send blessing to you husband and let him know that you are sure he has found peace. Which, by the way, he has. Our spirits/souls all learn from our experiences to take with us further in our path of knowledge. Be happy his struggle is over and be proud that you loved him and probably gave him all you had. Also, that you had the strength and wisdom to know that for the love and protection of yourself, you had to move on. Perhaps, that was your lesson in all of this. Be well.

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Morning, had you stayed in the relationship you would still end up more than depressed, people who try to control are Repressed an live in fear,the attraction you encountered to get married means you married quickly like many others and learn to late....head up shoulders back an learn to smile, there is happiness around you but you not receive because you block happiness out....YOU have a choose...a new begining or a sad ending....ITS UP TO YOU.

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Response to your question received on wwuask email

I don't think you should do that to yourself. It time for you to move on and meet other people..even from his grave he is still trying to control you.

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your feeling guilty mainly because his suicide was so close to the end of your relationship so your inclined to believe it was your fault and you could have prevented this but honestly i don't you could have suicide isn't done spontaneously it's in the back of people's minds going back months, years . your husband might have been heartbroken his controlling behavior may have being out of fear of losing you , could have thought he had nothing else to live for once the break up
or it's possible he wanted you to feel guilty so even though he's gone he still has control, which is taking its toil on you moving forward.
.just remember you did the right thing you left the abuse , you didn't push him to this he was just ill ! he was responsible for this not you!!

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