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My husband and I were separated. I slept with someone else now we are back together do I tell him? A while back my husband told me he did not want to be married. So we separated and during that time he told me I should go have sex with anyone to relieve the tension. Needless to say I did . Now that we are working things out we had a amnesty day and I told him part truth that there was very heavy petting but I was afraid of his reaction to the whole truth. In Marriage Asked by bettyblue Age : 46 8 Answers bettyblue 691 Views 1 month ago 1 month left to answer Vote 0 Tweet Report Abuse Email to Friends Add to Favorites Question Badge Use this wwuask.com question badge in blogs, websites, forums. Copy and paste the HTML below:

A while back my husband told me he did not want to be married. So we separated and during that time he told me I should go have sex with anyone to relieve the tension. Needless to say I did . Now that we are working things out we had a amnesty day and I told him part truth that there was very heavy petting but I was afraid of his reaction to the whole truth.

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coming from a relationship like yours,and being a man, you should be completely honest with him. If you are not honest now it will bother you for years.Also he wont be in shock over what he is hearing because 1:He told you to sleep with someone and 2:the reason he told you that is so he would not feel guilty for sleeping with another woman. Answered by weaselAge : 25 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by weasel 1 month ago
Response received on wwuask email I would. Truth is always best. Then its not bugging u in the back of ur mind, taunting u. Cause then it might effect the way u trust and feel in ur relationship. Always be honest, I even am so honslest that I tell my wife everything. Even when I relieve my-self, like after we haven't made love in a while, and am horney, and ask her but she tired of something else at the time.. Now she'll OK with it McFly Mr. Nice Guy ';)-* Answered by Dr TAge : 56 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Dr T 1 month ago
Response received on wwuak email response If you were separated then I don't think its anything he needs to know about, but since he gave you the go-ahead there's no reason you need to be ashamed and hiding it. Answered by Dr TAge : 56 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Dr T 1 month ago
Response received on wwuask email response By telling him you had a physical fling of a sort, you were honest. Any more info might hurt him or if it ticks him off, he will use it against you on non-amnesty days. Keep somethings to yourself, his knowing you slept with somebody else won't help rebuild your marriage in any way. Answered by Dr TAge : 56 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Dr T 1 month ago
I agree with kidsfor, honesty is the best policy at least you will be able to sleep and not worrying about if I should tell him or not. I would tell him and let him know what he said before you separated, and if he leaves well that's on him then he was not the one for you. Because life is too short to go around keeping things in. I hope that helped and good luck Answered by TAGCSTAge : 49 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by TAGCST 1 month ago
Honesty is ALWATS best. Get past it now instead of carrying extra worry for any period of time. Because some day it WILL come up and it may cause an issue that could have been avoided. Answered by Sister ...Age : 30 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Sister Mary 1 month ago
I totally agree with kidsfor in that sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs lye, however skeletons have a nasty habit of shaking their way out of the closet Answered by richka66Age : 42 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by richka66 1 month ago
You cannot live in fear of losing someone and you must be true to your self worth. Now the question is what is to be gained or lost by giving him more details about an event that he initiated. Weigh the options and then decide. If you're working things out and the partial truth is enough then why kick the hornet's nest. Answered by kidsfor...Age : 40 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by kidsforever 1 month ago

coming from a relationship like yours,and being a man, you should be completely honest with him. If you are not honest now it will bother you for years.Also he wont be in shock over what he is hearing because 1:He told you to sleep with someone and 2:the reason he told you that is so he would not feel guilty for sleeping with another woman.

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I would. Truth is always best. Then its not bugging u in the back of ur mind, taunting u. Cause then it might effect the way u trust and feel in ur relationship. Always be honest, I even am so honslest that I tell my wife everything. Even when I relieve my-self, like after we haven't made love in a while, and am horney, and ask her but she tired of something else at the time.. Now she'll OK with it

McFly Mr. Nice Guy ';)-*

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If you were separated then I don't think its anything he needs to know about, but since he gave you the go-ahead there's no reason you need to be ashamed and hiding it.

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By telling him you had a physical fling of a sort, you were honest. Any more info might hurt him or if it ticks him off, he will use it against you on non-amnesty days. Keep somethings to yourself, his knowing you slept with somebody else won't help rebuild your marriage in any way.

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I agree with kidsfor, honesty is the best policy at least you will be able to sleep and not worrying about if I should tell him or not. I would tell him and let him know what he said before you separated, and if he leaves well that's on him then he was not the one for you. Because life is too short to go around keeping things in. I hope that helped and good luck

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Honesty is ALWATS best. Get past it now instead of carrying extra worry for any period of time. Because some day it WILL come up and it may cause an issue that could have been avoided.

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I totally agree with kidsfor in that sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs lye, however skeletons have a nasty habit of shaking their way out of the closet

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You cannot live in fear of losing someone and you must be true to your self worth. Now the question is what is to be gained or lost by giving him more details about an event that he initiated. Weigh the options and then decide. If you're working things out and the partial truth is enough then why kick the hornet's nest.

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