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What else can I do to gain his trust and love back? I am 16 years old. Eddie and I were dating for 6months. Before I am judged please hear me out, although I cannot justify my actions. When I was 10 my mom started abusing me, my parents later got separated, and at the age 14 I was raped, became pregnant, and moved in with my aunt. Upon finding out I was almost 5months pregnant my mother pushed me down a steep hill, killing my baby girl. I went through a very bad depression and turned to drugs and sex. Then about 8 months ago, I met Eddie. He and I started going out and I immediately started feeling horrible for the person I was and tried to change myself because he made me feel like no one had ever done, but before I was completely finished Eddie found out and broke up with me. For the past 2 months I have done everything possible to try and gain his trust and his love back. I've given him every password I have, let him look through texts, put up with his paranoia, told people I was committed or that I had a boyfriend, tried getting him other people that don't take sides to talk to him, got him out of the house and doing things like concerts, movies, ect., and I have also blocked anyone I cheated on him with or even flirted with when we were together. This were going great 2 weeks ago when I went with him and his older sister and her kids to NY for a week, he even told me he loved me for the first time in months, but since then he has been increasingly paranoid, bipolar, angry, and distant. He has told me he just needed his space and now we see each other for one day and then go two days without. Last week he was all we need to talk, but when I came over he just wanted us to have a good day because he missed me. That day I saw the real Eddie, but then the next time I came over he yelled at me when I tried to lay my head on head on his chest when we were watching a movie and only kissed me when we had sex and when he was droppin me off home. I know that this is normal for what Ive put him through, but IDK what to do In Dating Asked by ash Age : 22 5 Answers ash 252 Views 1 month ago 1 month left to answer Vote 1 Tweet Report Abuse Email to Friends Add to Favorites Question Badge Use this wwuask.com question badge in blogs, websites, forums. Copy and paste the HTML below:

I am 16 years old. Eddie and I were dating for 6months.
Before I am judged please hear me out, although I cannot justify my actions. When I was 10 my mom started abusing me, my parents later got separated, and at the age 14 I was raped, became pregnant, and moved in with my aunt. Upon finding out I was almost 5months pregnant my mother pushed me down a steep hill, killing my baby girl. I went through a very bad depression and turned to drugs and sex.
Then about 8 months ago, I met Eddie. He and I started going out and I immediately started feeling horrible for the person I was and tried to change myself because he made me feel like no one had ever done, but before I was completely finished Eddie found out and broke up with me.
For the past 2 months I have done everything possible to try and gain his trust and his love back. I've given him every password I have, let him look through texts, put up with his paranoia, told people I was committed or that I had a boyfriend, tried getting him other people that don't take sides to talk to him, got him out of the house and doing things like concerts, movies, ect., and I have also blocked anyone I cheated on him with or even flirted with when we were together.
This were going great 2 weeks ago when I went with him and his older sister and her kids to NY for a week, he even told me he loved me for the first time in months, but since then he has been increasingly paranoid, bipolar, angry, and distant. He has told me he just needed his space and now we see each other for one day and then go two days without. Last week he was all we need to talk, but when I came over he just wanted us to have a good day because he missed me. That day I saw the real Eddie, but then the next time I came over he yelled at me when I tried to lay my head on head on his chest when we were watching a movie and only kissed me when we had sex and when he was droppin me off home.
I know that this is normal for what Ive put him through, but IDK what to do

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Honey, you have nothing to worry about. You were the one who when though the abuse. he shoul be there to support you. if he dose not understand you then he does not love you. however you should talk to him once moe an explain to him how you are feeling. Answered by lilyflyAge : 34 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by lilyfly 1 month ago
Response to your question was received in the wwuask email. Young lady, your past has nothing to do with Eddie's behavior. If he found out about your past, that is your past. He should be your support to help you get past your past. Now that he is angry. What is he angry for. You are the one who went through the abuse not him. You have nothing to apologize for. What have you done for him to not trust you or love you. After six months, he is showing his true self. Believe me. He is doing some things and trying to make you feel that it is because of your past. Take my advice. You did nothing. I was married to a person like him for 4 years. He didn't show me that side of him until we were married after a year of dating. If he is doing this now after six months, RUN. Get away from him. He will start abusing you verbally, emotionally, mentally, and physically. RUN now while you have a chance. God shows us things before we get so deeply involved. You need to pray. God is showing you but you are ignoring it. You don't need to gain his trust or love back because you haven't done anything. Wait a couple of months and date someone else. You need someone to love you and not treat you bad. You have gone through enough with your mother. Don't take that from him. If he can't show you affection and support after finding out your past, well he is not sensitive to your feelings and never will be. RUN, RUN, RUN. Please take my advice and RUN. Answered by Dr TAge : 56 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Dr T 1 month ago
Response received on wwuask email in response to your question. You need to love yourself first before anybody can love you. There are a lot of people out there will take care of you, so next time when you meet a new guy, you don't need to tell them all your past. Everybody has the past. You are still young, you can create your own future by going back to school and try really hard to keep moving forward. I know it's not easy, but it's worth it By the way, Eddie is no good, so Do Not put up with him.... Answered by Dr TAge : 56 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Dr T 1 month ago
Response received on wwuask email in response to your question. Hi my name is Ken I was beaten and pushed through walls at my parents house .I just could not get along with my parents .and I am adopted .They took 8 days to find me . I wish i grew up with my real parents.I had a very hard life until I was 21 and moved away with a woman who cared about me . I was so depressed i nearly drank myself to death. Yes I went to Green Oaks hospital and was diagnosed with bipolar. So I know. When you do meet somebody someday this person should love you no matter what.If he is a little distant from you .you can only keep trying to love him just the way he is .Yes there are people who are afraid of bipolar people but if he truly loves you he will be around.Give him some space and let him come to you.If that does not work then you should move on to somebody new. note: don't be totally open to your new man and give away all your secrets. Only a tiny bit at a time or he will be scared off.Be careful what you say from now on.I wish you luck and hope things get better.I however am doing well and live a better life now.I am distant from my parents. and like it better this way.I have had a lot of girlfriends and learned a lot with my friendships and how to keep them and what not to say so I hope you try to pickup secrets by talking to other people. Answered by Dr TAge : 56 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Dr T 1 month ago
I congratulate you for your revelation and attempting to assess at an early age all those things in your life that have or continue to bring you unhappiness.Now that you are coming to terms with those events in your life don't add Eddie as your next chapter. Not being loved at an early age and suffering from abuse should not be the cycle you would want to continue. You are gravitating toward Eddie because you attribute your revelation to him and he may have helped. His unevenness and behavior are no different than those you are trying to escape. Your searching too hard for a soul mate and not allowing yourself to experience your new found freedom. Allow Eddie to be your friend but don't plan your life or future around him. There are many steps on the road in search of happiness and Eddie was just a short rest stop that you've stayed at too long. Answered by Dr TAge : 56 1 month ago Report Abuse Edit Delete Vote 0 Add comments Answered by Dr T 1 month ago

Honey, you have nothing to worry about. You were the one who when though the abuse. he shoul be there to support you. if he dose not understand you then he does not love you. however you should talk to him once moe an explain to him how you are feeling.

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Young lady, your past has nothing to do with Eddie's behavior. If he found out about your past, that is your past. He should be your support to help you get past your past. Now that he is angry. What is he angry for. You are the one who went through the abuse not him. You have nothing to apologize for. What have you done for him to not trust you or love you. After six months, he is showing his true self. Believe me. He is doing some things and trying to make you feel that it is because of your past. Take my advice. You did nothing. I was married to a person like him for 4 years. He didn't show me that side of him until we were married after a year of dating. If he is doing this now after six months, RUN. Get away from him. He will start abusing you verbally, emotionally, mentally, and physically. RUN now while you have a chance. God shows us things before we get so deeply involved. You need to pray. God is showing you but you are ignoring it. You don't need to gain his trust or love back because you haven't done anything. Wait a couple of months and date someone else. You need someone to love you and not treat you bad. You have gone through enough with your mother. Don't take that from him. If he can't show you affection and support after finding out your past, well he is not sensitive to your feelings and never will be. RUN, RUN, RUN. Please take my advice and RUN.

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You need to love yourself first before anybody can love you. There are a lot of people out there will take care of you, so next time when you meet a new guy, you don't need to tell them all your past. Everybody has the past. You are still young, you can create your own future by going back to school and try really hard to keep moving forward. I know it's not easy, but it's worth it

By the way, Eddie is no good, so Do Not put up with him....

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Hi my name is Ken I was beaten and pushed through walls at my parents house .I just could not get along with my parents .and I am adopted .They took 8 days to find me . I wish i grew up with my real parents.I had a very hard life until I was 21 and moved away with a woman who cared about me . I was so depressed i nearly drank myself to death. Yes I went to Green Oaks hospital and was diagnosed with bipolar. So I know. When you do meet somebody someday this person should love you no matter what.If he is a little distant from you .you can only keep trying to love him just the way he is .Yes there are people who are afraid of bipolar people but if he truly loves you he will be around.Give him some space and let him come to you.If that does not work then you should move on to somebody new. note: don't be totally open to your new man and give away all your secrets. Only a tiny bit at a time or he will be scared off.Be careful what you say from now on.I wish you luck and hope things get better.I however am doing well and live a better life now.I am distant from my parents. and like it better this way.I have had a lot of girlfriends and learned a lot with my friendships and how to keep them and what not to say so I hope you try to pickup secrets by talking to other people.

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I congratulate you for your revelation and attempting to assess at an early age all those things in your life that have or continue to bring you unhappiness.Now that you are coming to terms with those events in your life don't add Eddie as your next chapter. Not being loved at an early age and suffering from abuse should not be the cycle you would want to continue. You are gravitating toward Eddie because you attribute your revelation to him and he may have helped. His unevenness and behavior are no different than those you are trying to escape. Your searching too hard for a soul mate and not allowing yourself to experience your new found freedom. Allow Eddie to be your friend but don't plan your life or future around him. There are many steps on the road in search of happiness and Eddie was just a short rest stop that you've stayed at too long.

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