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Hi Liz It sounds to me like he is trying to make you out to be the bad guy. He is trying to take the spotlight off of himself. After thirty years you deserve more respect than what was shown to you. You did nothing wrong so let him talk sooner or later the truth will come out. good luck in the future Mike Answered by mikeAge : 55 1 month ago Edit Delete
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If your husband was in his 50's I suspect that he is going through a midlife crisis. He is fighting with getting older. He is however a coward. He is not man enough to sit and talk and discuss his fears with his wife. He is taking the easy way out. He wants to wander on greener grass. I would try to go to a marriage counselor to try to save the marriage if you want, or take time to heal and then see if the grass is greener on the other side for you also! Answered by neecywa...Age : 59 1 month ago Edit Delete
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while I feel your pain I can not believe that you had no idea that your husband was going to leave you. Many people refuse to take any sort of responsiblity for their marriage or engagement coming to an end and try to blame the person who did the leaving,making themselves the victim process. I always say that there are 3 sides to any story, his,her's and the truth. You need to go on with your life and make things work for you,it does not matter if he told you or not the fact that he left is proof enough that he no longer wishes to be your husband.If you need closure try and reach out to him and see what went wrong. And what the family thinks or feel does not matter at this point. Good luck. Answered by loloAge : 49 1 month ago Edit Delete
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Hi Liz Answered by Laury D...Age : 34 1 month ago Edit Delete
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Since actions speak louder than words, the procurement of divorce actions by your husband does tell your family and friends that your marriage is over. I think by not discussing the matrimonial issues with you, your husband illustrated his level of cowardice which is high. Allow God to help you get over this situation. Answered by c. salmonAge : 61 1 month ago Edit Delete
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Liz, I think you would find more help by seeing a good therapist for this particular issue of yours. In fact I think it's very important that you do. Very very few people can began to imagine the pain your going through right now. A 30 year marriage cannot simply be cast aside overnight with some "Positive Thinking", you need to take some time to heal from this. No one is going to be able to tell you exactly why your husband has done what he has. You'll likely get many ignorant comments such as "Men this, Men that", I'm a Man and we don't all behave the same. Listen, There is absolutely no way anyone can give you any solid advice without more information and understanding. Speaking with a Therapist who has experience with these matters is crucial for your own healing process and to help you understand some possible reasons why things have occurred the way they have. If you could convince your husband to attend marriage counseling with you that would be great but I think having a therapist to walk you through this as well as a wise friend or close family member would be helpful. Answered by MojisolaAge : 24 1 month ago Edit Delete
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It is difficult to accept that after 30 years of marriage a partner would leave without discussion and then portraying to the family that he had. Try not to focus on the behavior of someone who clearly has no regard for you and the marriage you had. You need to begin to rebuild your life without him and don't waste time trying to figure out why he did what he did. At his age he could be reexamining his life and trying to create the life he wanted and denying the past. You may never be able to explain his behavior and don't try. It is not about the answers it's about you and your future. Focus on the positives. Answered by kidsfor...Age : 40 1 month ago Edit Delete
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