when i talk with people i don't know , i tend to forget what i was saying or start thinking about the reaction about the person . what should i do ?

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when i talk with people i don't know , i tend to forget what i was saying or start thinking about the reaction about the person . what should i do ? i just get distracted about how the person will think of me or if the person will laugh of my accent .i get anxious and agitated . what class should i take if i took speech 102 already ? In Anxiety Asked by jhoanne Age : 28 4 Answers jhoanne 332 Views 1 month ago Resolved Vote 0 Tweet Email to Friends Add to Favorites Question Badge Use this wwuask.com question badge in blogs, websites, forums. Copy and paste the HTML below:

i just get distracted about how the person will think of me or if the person will laugh of my accent .i get anxious and agitated . what class should i take if i took speech 102 already ?

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You may need to challenge distorted thinking as to the likelihood—and the severity—of others' disapproval in social situations. Is there really valid reason to believe that people would become upset with you if your worst fears came true? Even if some did, is there cause to conclude that you would not survive the ordeal? Does the opinion of another person actually change your value as a person? The Bible wisely advises: "Do not give your heart to all the words that people may speak."—Ecclesiastes 7:21. One team of doctors writing on social phobia stated: "Problems arise when people attach too much meaning and importance to the inevitable rejections that life brings. Rejection can be very disappointing. It can really hurt. But it doesn't have to devastate you. It's really not a catastrophe unless you make it one." The Bible helps us to view ourselves realistically. It acknowledges: "We all stumble many times." (James 3:2) Yes, no one is immune to imperfection and its sometimes embarrassing manifestations. Appreciating this helps us to make concessions for the weaknesses of others, and it encourages others to be just as understanding with ours. In any event, Christians know that the one whose approval really matters is Jehovah God—and he does not focus on our errors.—Psalm 103:13, 14; 130:3. (AWAKE Magazine July 22, 1998) Answered by nychelpAge : 29 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by nychelp 1 month ago
My three closest friends have three different types of anxiety disorder (what are the odds of that?) and what you are describing is not a single one of them. The issue is not uncontrollable anxiety as suggested, but rather the lack of being sure of yourself and being worried of what people will think of you which is what is causing those feelings. You need to find a way to convince yourself that there is nothing to be worried about. I used to be very shy as a child and still can be sometimes, but as I got older I became more sure of myself in many ways and now am better at dealing with it. I am sure I am smart so I have no problems speaking up or asking questions in class. You need to do the same thing. Don't be worried about your accent just realize that many people consider accents an attractive and/or adorable trait - I know I do. Become sure of yourself and you will be fine. I know some people get up in the morning and look in the mirror and tell themselves they are great or beautiful or whatever, try telling yourself that you are great and you are just being silly every time you start to freeze up. It does work, its called a self fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you will fail you probably will, if you believe you will get up and do great as long as you are prepared you probably will. Really do it and I bet you just about anything that it will work. Good luck! Answered by MouseAge : 23 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by Mouse 1 month ago
Seek advice from people who have been in your shoes and have conquered anxiety disorder. I have found that unless you have experienced something yourself, you can't really empathize and provide the best advice. There are many websites where you can ask - for example psychforums.org or just google 'anxiety forums'. There are also local groups on meetup.com. You are not alone and there are people out there that will help you. Answered by crystal...Age : 32 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by crystalfeather 1 month ago
I think that if you try replacing your bad or negative thoughts and experiences about yourself and others with positive self talk,religion and counseling and exercise it can probably help. Answered by ganeshaAge : 2 1 month ago Edit Delete Vote 0 Answered by ganesha 1 month ago

You may need to challenge distorted thinking as to the likelihood—and the severity—of others' disapproval in social situations. Is there really valid reason to believe that people would become upset with you if your worst fears came true? Even if some did, is there cause to conclude that you would not survive the ordeal? Does the opinion of another person actually change your value as a person? The Bible wisely advises: "Do not give your heart to all the words that people may speak."—Ecclesiastes 7:21.

One team of doctors writing on social phobia stated: "Problems arise when people attach too much meaning and importance to the inevitable rejections that life brings. Rejection can be very disappointing. It can really hurt. But it doesn't have to devastate you. It's really not a catastrophe unless you make it one."

The Bible helps us to view ourselves realistically. It acknowledges: "We all stumble many times." (James 3:2) Yes, no one is immune to imperfection and its sometimes embarrassing manifestations. Appreciating this helps us to make concessions for the weaknesses of others, and it encourages others to be just as understanding with ours. In any event, Christians know that the one whose approval really matters is Jehovah God—and he does not focus on our errors.—Psalm 103:13, 14; 130:3.

(AWAKE Magazine July 22, 1998)

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My three closest friends have three different types of anxiety disorder (what are the odds of that?) and what you are describing is not a single one of them. The issue is not uncontrollable anxiety as suggested, but rather the lack of being sure of yourself and being worried of what people will think of you which is what is causing those feelings. You need to find a way to convince yourself that there is nothing to be worried about. I used to be very shy as a child and still can be sometimes, but as I got older I became more sure of myself in many ways and now am better at dealing with it. I am sure I am smart so I have no problems speaking up or asking questions in class. You need to do the same thing. Don't be worried about your accent just realize that many people consider accents an attractive and/or adorable trait - I know I do. Become sure of yourself and you will be fine. I know some people get up in the morning and look in the mirror and tell themselves they are great or beautiful or whatever, try telling yourself that you are great and you are just being silly every time you start to freeze up. It does work, its called a self fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you will fail you probably will, if you believe you will get up and do great as long as you are prepared you probably will. Really do it and I bet you just about anything that it will work. Good luck!

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Seek advice from people who have been in your shoes and have conquered anxiety disorder. I have found that unless you have experienced something yourself, you can't really empathize and provide the best advice. There are many websites where you can ask - for example psychforums.org or just google 'anxiety forums'. There are also local groups on meetup.com. You are not alone and there are people out there that will help you.

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I think that if you try replacing your bad or negative thoughts and experiences about yourself and others with positive self talk,religion and counseling and exercise it can probably help.

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